Fellas, i need some advice

When i was engage to my fiancee i started to become friends with this other girl. Thats how it started, just friends, and thats how it ended. We both understood i was getting married and there was no chance of being a couple. So i got married to my fiancee. My old friend calls my house when i wasn't there. She never called before. i think the last time she called was over a yr ago and i answered the phone. She knew i was married and i told her that also. Anyways she called today. My wife answers the phone. My old friend hangs up after knowing i wasn't home but not before she told my wife her name. My wife calls me and ask me who this girl was. This is where i fuck up. Apparently i forgot that i had told my wife about this girl and told her she was a old (in age) girl from -such n such place-. But my wife said that she didn't sound old but young, which is true, shes my age. And now i fumbled over her questions and kept saying i dont know to some obvisous answers. You can tell it in my voice i knew the answer. To make it worse today is our anniversary! So guys how would you deal with this dilemma, how would you tell your girl that this chick was just a friend even though your girl is like "friend my ass"? the next time she ask (like later today) should i just tell her that she was just a friend and the only reason i started talking to her was because you where being a real bitch (meany) to me at that time? Which is true by the way! i know shes going to trip big time, shes real fuckn jealuos. My friend isn't trying to get back or anything, she just wanted to say hi and see whats up. But my wife.........i dont fucking know

some history -

the reason i started talking to this girl is b/c my and my fiancee where argueing for months. I mean she hurt me pretty dam bad from the things she said. But this girl (friend) was nothing like my fiancee. This girl was what i needed at that time. A good women.

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hey,

Dude this is a pity problem. If she was just a friend then she was just a friend. Nothing to be worried about. Unlessss it was more than that? Just tell her the truth, its the best thing.

2009-07-01 18:36:52

yep,

pretty much what they said ^^^^. no other way around it. even if you are telling the truth, since your wife is so jealous it would not matter anyway. You made a mistake marrying someone so jealous if you can have a honest converstation with her

2009-07-01 19:11:47

GQ,

Consider this: You have already lied to your girl. She has a suspicion that you lied, but that is it. It sounds like what you and your friend had was more than friendship. Is that something you really want to tell your girl? I would spin it and say that the girl told you she was attracted to you so you deaded the friendship. Tell your girl you didn't let her know because it was a situation you thought was over. Whatever you do, don't admit to the shit. Women say they want the truth but...

2009-07-01 20:34:51

Brown Drizzle,

it seems to me that this young lady may be a friend; however, if the right moment or opportunity presented itself it could go farther than that...

Apparently, this woman gave you everything that your "fiancee" was lacking at that time... I believe the lord brings people into our space for a season, reason, and a lifetime.

Appreciate the talks, and friendship she offered at that time; however, you are married now to a jealous woman.... (I'll pray for you) and she will find all new females suspicious until you tell her (there's no reason to wrong) and she can confirm it for herself.

The question that I have is... why would she be calling after a year.....

2009-07-02 00:17:43

Don't Sweat It,,

She's already mad and if she's a jealous person just tell her what she alreay knows but tell her the whole truth w/ you and "YOUR" friend...let her know that you was just scared to tell her the truth cause you was scared...y'all are married and she'll know if your sincere about the situation but she may not give 2 shits anyways and let it ride but let O' girl know if she calls then don't be fucking actin childish w/ her dumbass makin shit look like more than what it is...and try to be as honest as you can w/ your wife in the future cause u never kno when the lie is gonna catch up w/ your ass

2009-07-02 01:59:14

Need more info,

Did you have sex with this so called 'friend'? Either way, you need to check her for calling the home you share with your wife and hanging up. Thats suspect and disrespectful! Second tell your wife THE TRUTH! Dont lie and make things worse! On your anniversary.. DAMN! You better get off the internet and set up something real nice for your wife. I bet she is FUMING right now and rightfully so.

2009-07-02 08:27:11

Guest,

You and your wife are both new to marriage. You both have to learn to sacrifice and compromise if you want this marriage to work. There are going to be alot of arguments and disagreements in the beginning, growing pains as they say. But you can't go running to your so-called "friend" everything you get pissed off at your wife. Believe me when I tell you, that will only lead to an extramartial affair. I would regularly get pissed off at my husband. Arguing all the time over stupid shit. Ran into an ex boyfriend, started venting to him about my martial problems. Before I knew it, one thing lead to another and we became sexually involved. Fortunately I was able to get myself out of that situation and got back on track with focusing on my marriage. You need to do the same. Instead of asking the fellas for advice, you need to ask the ladies. Be really creative and do some really nice and special for your wife for your anniversary.

2009-07-02 17:20:28

Author,

Thanks GQ & Guest. I told her the truth but made it sound like it was her (the friend) problem. And Guest, I did bring a little surprise to our (wife n i) anniversary. But thanks for the good advice. Well appreciated everybody. Thank you

2009-07-02 17:51:12

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