he ain't the daddy

My ex-husband thinks he's the father of my youngest son. He's not. We were divorced when he was conceived. He was living with another woman and I was dating a friend of mine who was visiting from New York. I ended up sleeping with both of them within days of each other. My ex and I used protection. My friend and I did not. My son looks like the twin of my friend. He knows its his. I know its his. My son, who's 8 does not know. My ex doesn't know. OH! I almost forgot. During that time I slept with my friend, he was MARRIED and I had NO IDEA. His wife and child were back in New York. He even had his own mom lying for him. Anyway, my youngest son looks NOTHING like me. People don't even realize we are related. Of course he doesn't look like my ex. My oldest son looks just like me and my ex. So, yes, the 8 year old stands out. But he's the cutest thing ever. My question is, do I tell him who his real father is? Why? What would be the point? It's not like he\'s involved. He's remarried and has had severel more children. My ex is no good either. He hasn't seen the boys in months. So I don't see what good can come out of me telling my son and my ex. No good at all. What do you think...

Comments

Ask Mother Divine,

Child you know your ass is fowl, tell the man the truth and stop playing games. What if this child needed medical help and he found out. You where out being a whore and had a child now you want someone else to take care of your child Please. You are wrong , be a women and tell the truth, he may not even care and stilll claim the child.

DING DONG DING!!!

2009-07-03 17:50:58

hey,

Yes you should tell your son who his father is. Why, because everybody deserves to know who their biological parents are! How would you feel if your next to your father's death bed and he finally said that the person you called mom is not actually your mom but some one night stand he had with another girl. Wouldn't you like to know who she was? Or if they told you that you had a twin? Tell him, its the right thing to do ma. If he finds out (1/million) on his own he will probably won't forgive you. And its just awful not telling him.

2009-07-03 21:14:22

welllllllll,

if your husband aint shit and you were divorced when it happened, he was living with someone else and the other man knows it his kid, then why not tell someone? collect some support from the real daddy or whatever. But telling the kid now may be too young

2009-07-03 21:57:14

Guest,

You need to be honest with everyone. That is not fair for your ex-husband to financial support a child that is not his. You know the friend is the biological father, so he needs to be responsible for supporting you son. Plus I think your son can deal with the truth better at a young age. This secret could ruin your relationship with your son if he finds this out as an adult. But honestly you sound a little shady yourself. You know you used protection with your ex so you knew that wasn't his child. But you lied to him anyway. Even though you are asking us for our advice, you know you really don't have any intentions on revealing the truth. You are hoping that we will help you justify your lie. Remember the truth will set you free.

2009-07-04 21:24:33

You need to tell your son and his father the truth - the son I wouldn't tell yet cause he's young but when he gets older I'd tell him... it's only fair to everyone concerned - why didn't you fess up from the start - not for nothing but if you just broke up with your man why you fucking the next man raw so soon - all you grown ass people who do stupid shit and then be like what should I do later need to grow the fuck up... seriously....

2009-07-06 13:16:53