i dated a guy who i believe was/is on the DL. im no longer with him. i believe he was on the DL because of several incidents. for example one of his straight male friends was blowing up his cellphone asking him when he was going to come over. i asked him what was going on, he said some boys were getting together - no women. the nail in the coffin was that he left my house to go home to get a bag to spend the night at his boy's house. there were other incidents which i wont go into. slips like referring to oral sex on a women as head. all that aside, guys, there is a look in your eyes and on your face that gives you away. its almost as if you are wearing a mask. that's how i know. and any woman that really wants to know ...KNOWS. (check her eyes out ...SHE  DOES KNOW). she chooses to either stay in a state of denial, love you regardless or leave. i left, but i still care deeply for this man and hope he makes the choice to be monogamous with a woman since he is an active member of my church. love to all of you DLs brothas and speaking on behalf of all the sisters -- please find happiness hopefully as a faithful husband and lover to a women. much love!!!