I think you should get tested first. People need to be more responsible for their actions.It's not fair your wife should suffer because you screwed up.Get tested and if it comes back positive,you should tell your wife.

2008-05-19 16:05:10

You need to be a man and tell your wife. Afterall, if she is sick you are the cause right? The same way you were man enough to go do a dude in the booty, you need to be a man and tell your wife. By the way, GOD made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. Get your life together.

2008-05-19 16:06:49

Why scare your wife go get tested and if positive tell her. In the mean time tell the wife that you want her and a man and let her decide what she will do.

2008-05-19 16:09:52

Man get tested and take it from there.

2008-05-19 16:10:02

Sorry to tell you this hon- ypur marriage is already messed up. You are living a lie- I wish you the best

2008-05-19 16:10:25

first go get tested you may be worried about nothing..then if you are you have to tell her. just remember how you felt when you saw him and he acted as if you didn't exist. don't put your wife through that it's not fair to her she didn't have anything to do with the decision you made to have unprotected sex especially with a man. that was your decision and yours alone

2008-05-19 16:10:36

It's one thing to be gay and open with it,but to be on the DL putting other people lives in jeopardy is a disgrace. This type of behaviour perpetuates ignorance and the desruction of the African America race. I know that you are black because other races seem to be more open with their life styles. It's just a reminder of what \"Chris Rock\" said at his concert, \"Black Men Will F!@@ Anybody\" Do you not have a boundary line in your life! It must be true, that black DL men hate black women. Although this behaviour is prevalent world wide, I would repent of my actions, get tested and discuss matter with my wife. I pray that GOD exercises mercy on the ATL for th sake of innocent people, next time it may not be a tornado!!!!

2008-05-19 16:11:00

I agree with the first poster tell your wife dont do that to her

2008-05-19 16:11:11

If u love ur wife so much u wouldn't have risked her life, but moving on...if u love her, then u have 2 tell her. U put both ur lives @ risk....if u did give her sumthin ur gonna have 2 pay 4 ur mistake sooner or later!!

2008-05-19 19:40:41

Man get tested and take it from there.

2008-05-20 13:51:58

Get tested and base your telling her on the results. Positive tell her, negative keep it moving. OR just simply suggests that it would be fun for you two to get tested.

2008-05-20 13:51:58

Go get tested by yourself, why rat urself out if u dont have it in the first place?

2008-05-20 13:57:09

Whoever wrote the above comment is obviously on the DL... You need to take responsibility for your actions. TELL YOUR WIFE to get tested. You should have thought about messing up your marriage when you were screwing another man! There is no reason she should suffer due to your infidelity, and lies!

2008-05-20 13:57:09

omg what is wrong wit u. First get tested and then if u good dont do that again. If u love her show her by not sleepin wit men or other women. if u want a man then be wit a man

2008-05-20 13:57:09

what the phuck!!!! i hate this. what is going on w/this dl shiiit!!!?? y r these men gettg married to women? its 2008 if u want to b w/a man be w/one. if ur not sure dont take a person thru the b.s. MAN UP!!! stop dealg w/women just cuz ur scared of ur fam, society or what ur \"suppose\" to b. ur havg families and playg roles as a husband & on the low. HANDLE UR BI & leave these women alone!!!!

2008-05-20 13:57:09

You need to tell her. Thats messed up. If you love her like you say you do, you would tell her. You got married for honesty and trust, well you have broke all those, so if you have any love for her you need to tell her. Forget what your boys say. She deserves to know. I hope that you dont have kids and if you do, then think about them.

2008-05-20 13:57:09

You should most def get yourself tested, and let your wife know. Cheating is wrong whether with a man or woman, but not using protection is just plain stupid.\"do you know that DL brothers are the cause of African American women between the ages of 15 - 25 being the highest group of people getting infected by AIDS\"? I don't know where you got your info from but all that boils down to is homophobia. Miseducation and a lack of resources and failing to use protevtion during all forms of intercoures are all reason black women are affected by the virus at a disprportionate rate. please don't scapegoat. It doesn't help the state we're in.

2008-05-20 13:57:09

DL men are NOT the cause of African-American women 15-25 getting HIV! African-American women and men NOT using condoms or protection is the cause of African-American women getting HIV! It takes two, remember that always!

2008-05-20 13:57:09

you should be ashamed of yourself. you took vows and you break them like that man i hope she beats ur ass

2008-05-20 13:57:09

You so called Christians will burn in hell for calling people queers. I though Christian where not to HATE people but love all people. Rather right or wrong for his action I still do not believe that he should be told to die, burn in hell or be cursed. On behalf of true Christians, I send out my apologies for the hate that people have displayed here.

2008-05-20 13:57:09

u need to pray! thats why the world is so messed up today because of people like you that go around spreading hiv and aids how could u look at yourself in the mirror and call yourself a man? a real man wouldnt cheat, especially with a

2008-05-20 13:57:09

well, u need to get tested and get back at me cause i love married guys.

2008-05-20 13:57:09

You should tell her if you love her like you say, why shouldn't she decide if she wants her man to be on the DL...you already know she is going to hate you so let her choose her destiny not you and your wants....you are selfish, inconsiderate, and just plain nasty....

2008-05-20 13:57:09

You re insensitive and gay...the man is not BI-nothing. sH!T he slept with another man. That is NOT EXCUSABLE. You owe your wife the decency to tell her you committed adultry with a man and you two possibly could be infected. Oh, now you love her... nig'cha please... love does not do things to INTENTIONALLY hurt someone that he/she cares about. I dislike people like you... subjecting women to HIV (and other diseases for the fact) because you want to have sex with other men. You are a punk azz all the way around. No one needs to school you on what' s the RIGHT thing to do. Point blank you F*cked up, now clean up your mess and be prepared to deal with the consequences.

2008-05-20 13:57:09

tell her so she have a piece of mind and get away from your NASTY A.SS

2008-05-20 13:57:09

BEFORE YOU MESS UP YA MARRIAGE.. GET TESTED FIRST.. YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE NOTHING DUMMY.. ONCE YOU FIND OUT THE RESULTS, THAT WILL DETERMINE IF YOU TELL HER OR NOT.. NOW THE QUESTIONS IS, ARE YOU STILL ON THE DL? - D HARMONY2020@YAHOO.COM

2008-05-22 17:05:38

If this is behavior that you are going to engage in on a regular basis, then u need to tell your wife. Get yourself tested first, and if you come out negative then let it go. In the real world , people cheat and never tell their spouses anyway. BUT, if this is something you plan on doing often, she DESERVES the right to know so that she can figure out what it is that she wants to do. Good luck to you.

2008-05-25 19:16:37

I'm sure u enjoyed what u did, & u probably will do it again. I think u should tell ur wife, & she should leave ur ass! U r putting her @ risk, because u want 2 have ur cake & eat it 2. Y, tell me y r men so sorry!

2008-05-25 19:16:37

othing wrong with being bisexual, but ALL your partenrs have a RIGHT to know about your risky behaviour. TELL your wife, let her decide what she wants to do, u never know, she may be down with it! but u r a dumb azz for f/u/c/k/ing around raw! luv urself more than that!!!

2008-05-29 03:37:03

If your ass loved her you wouldn't be sleeping around with men in the first place. Damn shame; do you know that DL brothers are the cause of African American women between the ages of 15 - 25 being the highest group of people getting infected by AIDS? Theres no sense of me schooling you. Go get yourself tested before anything. That way if you don't have it you can keep that skeleton in your closet. However if you are infected.. then you know what to do. Don't be greedy and pick or chose.. ONE at at time bro. ONE at a time.

2008-06-01 16:13:06

you should be ashamed of yourself. you took vows and u break them like that? i hope she beats your butt and the guy's too and divorces you.

2008-06-02 02:41:10

you were less than a man when you did the nasty deed. now be a man and tell her the truth and let her out of this lie of a marriage.

2008-06-03 20:46:39

You so called Christians will burn in hell for calling people queers. I though Christian where not to HATE people but love all people. Rather right or wrong for his action I still do not believe that he should be told to die, burn in hell or be cursed. On behalf of true Christians, I send out my apologies for the hate that people have displayed here.

2008-06-07 02:32:02

Don't know where you reside, but you can call 1-800-985-AIDS and ask for information or a location to test for HIV in your area. You should consider testing as soon as possible, not because of what your past partner looked like, but because you had unprotected sex. You can tell your wife that you saw an ad in the paper about women and HIV, and thought that you should both be tested. God bless you, and I hope that you can work through your issues.

2008-06-07 02:32:02

I don't know about the poop thing the guy above wrote, but I agree not to tell her. Why have her blame you is she gets sick?

2008-06-08 11:08:33

you should keep it to yourself. You probably ain't got nothin to worry about, and she probably bangin some dude on the side anyway, maybe she think it's her fault if she get it. also you should put some of your poop in her breakfast when she ain't lookin, trick-ass ho

2008-06-09 08:18:22

I just can not believe these people who think that he shouldnt tell her. Put yourself in this woman's shoes. She has a husband who is having unprotected sex with men and she is not even aware of it. She probably trust him enough to have unprotected sex with not knowing what he is doing. How cruel can you be to endanger her life and how cruel can any of you be to say he shouldn't tell her. How would you like it if someone did the same to you. You people just do not have a heart no regard for someone's life. She deserves to know that her \"husband\" or lack there of don't give a sh*t about their marriage or her life let alone his own. I just hate this deceitful behavior spare us women and be with a man if thats what you desire. Don't lie and put us in harms way. I feel so sorry for her. As her husband you shouldnt even have to come on here to get help with making your decision as her husband you should be man enough to admit to her your wrong doing. This is so disturbing in so many ways. TELL HER YOU A*SHOLE!

2008-06-09 08:40:52

um ass dats exactly wat yu get 4 cheatin on pus*y....ha im glad i hope yu got it 2....F@G

2008-06-11 13:49:07

Most straight ppl are ignorant (mostly stupid). Go get tested 1st. Why would you tell her about the specifics of your affair if all is well? If you tell her, a typical straight woman, that you cheated on her with a man, she will most likely get threatened. and, as you may already know people express anger in the presence of a threat. You should only tell her if you continue to have homosexual feelings. Sexuality is much more than physical sex. If you don't want to continue with this dude then f*ck him and live your live... also stop listening to idiots like the above individual. They offer no resolution and their goal is to bring your self-esteem down. F*ck em! And just to touch on a previous post. I am sick and tired of my fellow african americans listening to these stories that the media depicts of the DL lifestyle... what is the difference from a closeted man and DL man? nothing. Thats how they distinguish between minority gay men and the other ones. Wake up! Back to you...your grown, stop listening to the peanut gallery.. handle your business...get tested tommorrow. whats done is done but playboi, alot could have been avoided if you just used a condom.

2008-06-12 16:14:32

Dl men dont hate african american women darling. I cant speak for all but that is a pretty broad statement. We came from these same women. From birth we are told to like women. What I dont get is why that makes my African-American women so insecure. I live in a predominately minority urban environment and I dont see straight African -american men treating their women any better.

2008-06-12 16:24:44

Dl men dont hate african american women darling. I cant speak for all but that is a pretty broad statement. We came from these same women. From birth we are told to like women. What I dont get is why that makes my African-American women so insecure. I live in a predominately minority urban environment and I dont see straight African -american men treating their women any better.

2008-06-12 16:24:46

you need to get tested and tell your wife too..you are very selfish cause you seem more concerned with maintaining your lie of a marriage than your wife's health. What you're not gay anymore? that was the passed? oh please!

2008-06-13 06:44:12

honesty is the key..please tell her and you'll work it out you shouldn't be behind her back with a man or a woman...i had a liar and a cheat but I appreciate a person who can admit their wrong and confess

2008-06-13 06:44:12

i'm a woman and i say get tested. if negative... don't say anything to her and just move on with your life. if you're pos, God bless u. do the right thing and tell her.

2008-07-04 00:35:16

U NEED TO GET URSELF TESTED!!! TELL UR WIFE BECUZ OF UR ACTIONS SHE COULD BE N HARMS WAY!!! UR ARE A SELFISH, SELF CENTERED MAN!!! U MAYBE COULD TELL UR WIFE IT WAS WITH ANOTHER WOMEN B/C ONCE ITS OUT UR ON THE DL U COULD LOSE EVERYTHING!!! SHE IS MORE WILLING TO WORK THE MARRIAGE OUT IF ITS A WOMAN. B/C SHE CANT GIVE U WHAT A MAN GIVE U SO SHE' LL LEAVE!!! BUT GET TESTED SERIOUSLY!!!!

2008-09-03 00:46:54

You are one frightened little idiot who has no regard for human life. You don't respect yourself because you haven't even been tested...and you know your nasty ways. NO CONDOM in 2008...are you phuckin' kidding me???!!! This is some real loser shit...and it's men like you that have African-American women in a state of panic!!! Do you have children....because they could stand to LOSE TWO PARENTS because you are afraid of your own shadow....DESPICABLE!!!!

2008-09-03 18:08:30

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You are one frightened little idiot who has no regard for human life. You don't respect yourself because you haven't even been tested...and you know your nasty ways. NO CONDOM in 2008...are you phuckin' kidding me???!!! This is some real loser shit...and it's men like you that have African-American women in a state of panic!!! Do you have children....because they could stand to LOSE TWO PARENTS because you are afraid of your own shadow....DESPICABLE!!!!

2008-09-03 18:11:28

you are DESPICABLE! to even question whether or not you should tell your wife (whom you LOVE sooo much) that you have most likely INFECTED her with a HIV is disgusting! why don't you man up and stop being such a Coward? MEN like you are the LOWEST of the LOW...oh and remember karma is a BITCH...GET yourself tested IDIOT...I hope that man doesnt have AIDS for your WIFES SAKE...but you? well u deserve anything and everything u get

2008-09-05 14:17:32

U mine as jump off the cliff or ask sum1 2 pull the fuckin trigger. U already asked 4 ur death sentence when u fucked a man let alone raw. u should b ashamed of urself. how the fuck r u suppose 2 teach ur son how 2 b a man if ur not 1. U disgust me.

2008-09-06 18:39:13

What straight man tells their boys they fucked another dude?

2008-09-08 09:59:28

This story sounds bogus to me. Movies like cover got so call strait folks actin a fool. Anyway any person not protecting themselves these days are foolish. Even if you're married you should go get tested together. Gay or strait! This story sounds like bullshit to me. Let this be a lesson to all and practice what you preach we are all responsible for our own actions with our bodies. Sex, Love, Marriage, and Families ain't what they use to be.

2008-09-09 14:23:17

No one feels sorry 4 ur nasty ass.I feel 4 ur wife.How dare u pretend 2 b something that ur not.U R NOT A MAN!A man is honet & responsible.Y get involved with women just 2 hide who u r?Again u DL brothas account 4 the majority of HIV/AIDS cases transmitted 2 the sistas.Damn u dumb as hell!U know u have a wife @ home but yet u don't use protection?Dats y we have a problem wit yall nasty asses bcause u don't think about no1 but urselves.The Christians love every1 they just don't approve of ur lifestyle.Know the difference.GOD is not a GOD of confusion.Where in da Bible does it states HE's in error @ anytime?."He is perfect in all his ways" is what it says.GET UR MIND RIGHT!IGNORANCE = DEATH !!

2008-09-09 23:56:42

ur fucked up in the head dawg

2008-09-14 17:20:05

"my boys tell me to keep i to myself and not tell her".....are you fucking kidding me?!?! you cant tell ur wife that you fucked a dude but u can tell ur homies??? OH HELL NO!!! yall all must be knocking balls together if they aint find that shit awkward! DAMN, how they cool wit it? i would dropped yo ass as a friend in a millisecond if you told me that shit! EWWWW!

2008-09-19 10:54:29

If you want to be with men, be with MEN, dammit! But don't hide behind a closed door with another man 4ever and get some shit and think you ain't gotta tell nothin! And for the DUMB-ASSES who say God made Adam and Eve not adam and steve, fuck what they talking about! I know God made Evolution, and if Adam and Eve is so true, then why do we sin, and why the fuck do y'all nasty ass niggas like to see Amanda and Eve dykin then?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

HI HATER

2008-10-15 23:42:23

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2008-10-22 03:59:34

you should have never went ther, why? why are men so stupid? go get tested, maybe you should both get tested.

2008-10-28 03:04:31

That's some ill shit DL man. Y even have a woman in your life & U want a dam man? Get the HIV test & get your crazy ass tested also!! With your shit ass!! Until u tell the truth about what you like to do Y do it u shame????? Now!!! I hate to be your friend & u fucking over a woman whom u took vows with. I hope no kids is in the picture!! Holla Back losse booty!!!

2008-10-29 19:41:36

Here's what you should do: Kill the other guy, and then kill yourself lol

2008-10-31 13:38:00

u is a fag

2008-11-03 02:03:59