I am a 24 year old man dating and living with a 26 year old downlow brother who has a one year old daughter. We have been living together for about four months and we have two rooms for the look and when his daughter stays over, which seems like every night. Recently the baby's mother had a conversation with him saying that it would be too confusing for the baby if either of them had people they were dating around her and showed any affection. Part of this was that if the intimate people in her parent's life were constantly changing she wouldn't understand the differences in relationships, and that she should have to keep getting attached to someone and then having them leave. She has no clue that we are lovers, she thinks we are roommates and he does date women and I am cool with that because he told me that when we first started dating. So, she is speaking of him dating other women, but I did tell him that I agreed with her and said I understood, and that we would save the affections for times she was not there. However, every day one of the parents is either picking her up or dropping her off with the other parent - so there is not much time when he does not have her. I guess my real question is, how long do I have to wait before being affectionate in front of her? I know she's only a year, and so explaining things to her isn't really an option since he is living on the downlow. How will this affect her psychologically, and what are the safest options for us and her? We really like each other so far, and so I'm hoping that I can put up with this and it will not be an issue. I want to do what is best for the child, but am not really sure what that is. Thank you for your help...