I feel so stupid

I am a femaie & I've been with my guy for over 3 years now. We live together have even relocated to another state together. I always thought we had a good thing. The problem is he is married, I always thought it was over she lives in a completely different state and knows we are together. Their kids have even stayed with us for extended amounts of time. The problem is I recently went thru his phone and read several texts between them. They still call each other baby, say they love each other. He has said he wishes they were still together and nothing we have could compare to what they shared,

All this time I believed him when he says he loved me and wanted to be with me and wanted me to have his baby and blah blah blah. I am so hurt and sad and feel like the biggest fool. I don't know what to do. I am in a new place, too ashamed to talk to any of my friends or family about this and I'm sad.

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***The one and only, PAT! You stanking bitches!***,

Awww, honey bunny. Trust me, when I fucking tell you, NO MARRIED MAN EVER... EVER FUCKING EVER LEAVES HIS WIFE! They never do! I don't give a fuck if y'all two gotta house, car and all that shit together. Please believe he aint gonna leave his wife. So wait... y'all two muthafucka's been together for 3 years... Why that nigga aint filed for no divorce? And why would you wanna married man anyway? Please believe if that nigga was cheating with you, he is gonna cheat on you! And a married man who steps out on his wife can't be trusted anyway. Why would you want to be somebody you can't trust? Honey, I know it's hard when you think you're in love, but you gotta let that nigga go. I'm telling you. Whatever y'all got going on aint worth you stressing out over him. And plus you went thru his phone and already know what the deal is between him and his wife... let that pussy ass nigga go. Spend time doing you and gettin yourself together... Fuck that nigga, honey! He aint worth it!

2010-02-07 05:08:50

J-Glossie,

I agree wit PAT. Use the weak ass boy until you can stack your paper and get your shit together well enough to get your shit and move on. If you fuck up and have his babies, you will be dropped. He def can't be trusted and after all this time he should have had a divorce by now. He don't really want you. He is just WITH you.

2010-02-07 08:51:04

Men lie,

Men lie. Period. They tell women what they want to hear, and they also like their egos fed by flirting. With that being said, actions always speak louder than words with a man. His actions? He is with YOU. He moved to a different state with YOU... He may have hit a boring patch with YOU, so now he is flirting with her again, but YOU need to confront his two faced ass and ask him point blank where he wants to be, cause the double talk ends now! I betcha faggot Pats grandmas best wig he stays where he is and cuts the shyt!!!

2010-02-07 09:32:35

Cont.,

You say you 'always' thought his marriage was over - which makes me think they were seperated before you two got together. If that's the case, then you ain't steal nobodys man, so nobody will steal yours as karma. Dried up drag queens that look like Pat are in NO position to give relationship advice, trust your gut, and his actions... Not his texts or mouth.

2010-02-07 09:46:13

jay,

That's the game of love babygirl, and tho you may not see it now, you'll be a betta person at the end of the healing process from this break up...

J a y s h o l l y w o o d .blogspot.com

2010-02-07 12:03:16

This is Pat.... Hi HATER! LOL!,

To the muthafucka that is hating on me... Eat a dick with genital warts at the tip and choke on it, hoe! Why the fuck you talking about me anyway, you piece of fucking doo-doo??? LMAO... you muthafucka's kill me! OH MY GOODNESS... get a muthafucking life and stop worrying about Ms. Pat, honey.

*Proceeds to spray the hater with my infamous "Hater-Be-Gone" spray and watches this hating ass bitch hoe dissapear into thin air* OOOH LAWD, I aint had to use that spray in a while, honey bunnies! These haters keep coming out of no where.... BE GONE HATERS! BE GONE!!! Oh Yea... GO SAINTS, YOU BITCHES!!!! lmao!

2010-02-08 04:46:32

HMMM,

I agree with Pat when she/he says that a married man never leaves his wife. That is true, however there are RARE occastions when they DO leave their wife. (e.g Swizz beats & Alicia Keys; Brad & Angelina)

However, my mother always told me...If it starts wrong, it ends wrong. PERIOD!

Nothing should have happened between you and that man until their was a divorce. PERIOD! POINT BLANK! Start off on the right foot, nothing can come back and bite you in the arse.

Also, my mom told me one thing I will never forget. Like the fabulous Mz Pat said, "They never leave their wives", but those rare times that they DO leave their wives.

The OTHER woman always ends up wishing they NEVER HAD! Again, they may sometimes leave their wife, but eventually. Your gonna wish they never did!

-Good Luck

2010-02-08 06:25:22

Author,

Thanks for all the feedback, it is appreciated. To Cont. & HMMM--yes it was over before we met. They were already living in two seperate states which is the only reason I proceeded with the relationship. I would never try to break up a happy home. It was already broken, the paperwork has just has never been filed.

To Pat--you are hilarious your second post made me laugh this morning & I really needed that

2010-02-08 09:30:08