He Had Sex With My Friend

I got married in September 2007 so have been married for about 5 months now. In January i started speaking to a girl that i used to be best friends with but we fell out a few years back. Everything with her was going great, i got my social back and was able to have a good friendship with her again. Just 3 weeks ago my husband walked out on me and told me that he still loved me but needed to clear his head, he had been a bit depressed lately as he'd lost his job. My 'friend' had stayed with me regulary over the next couple of weeks and had been a real comfort. Just last week my husband called and said that we need to try and work things out and that he didnt want us to be over. My 'friend' was with me at the time. My husband and i had a chat on the phone about what we could do to start afresh and something clicked inside me, i dont know why. I decided to look at my 'friends' messages on her phone as she had fallen asleep. I was shocked to find messages from my husband saying that he loved her and had left me for her. I prompty kicked her out and have not spoken to either of them since. He has sent me a couple of messages saying sorry and that he loves me but nothing since the day after i found out. I changed my mobile and home phone number and have chosen not to get in contact with him but am not sure if im doing the right thing so would love some guidence. Thank u for listening.

Comments

Guest,

you did the right tihing u could did something hurtfultothem but u didn't. that's makes u the bigger person.

2008-05-27 02:45:26

Guest,

You did the right thing!

2008-05-27 05:03:26

Guest,

You did the right thing

2008-05-27 05:09:35

Guest,

Why would you trust someone that you obviously couldn't trust from a past experience? with this sorry, no good, nothing worthless ass Biotch. She showed you how much of a friend she was . Always Watch them.

2008-05-27 05:13:53

Guest,

Keep your head up, you did the right thing by putting that hoe out of your house, as far as your husband go, get a damn divorce.

2008-05-27 05:15:08

Guest,

While it appears that your friend and your husband did the unthinkable by betraying you. However, you never once shared how you really felt about him. I wonder if you had strong feelings for him and truly desired to make it work. Sometimes situations occurr within our lives to help us examine our beliefs about relationships and friendships. You seem to be relatively smart and I cannot believe you had no clue. Unless you wore your horses blinders and decided not to. You should begin to allow yourself to grieve the loss of your friend and husband in order to begin the process of letting go in order to heal.

2008-05-27 05:23:40

Guest,

O.k, I know it's hard to just leave him because of whatever(emotional attachments, financial situation), but the truth is you did the right thing. And don't let him weasel his snake ass back in your home either. There are too many people in the world to let one hold you down. Move on with your life. Sincerely, Never going RAW ag

2008-05-27 05:24:32

Guest,

sorry but i personally would have kicked her ass and his!! but hers twice as bad!! im sorry but hey, thats some effed up bs!!

2008-06-11 07:50:26

Blze_Blu,

....why are you secong guessing your decision?....just wondering.....

*ONE L.O.V.E.*
Belizean Blu

2008-07-17 13:26:56

if you had to ask, you know the answer. don't second guess yourself. you actually handled it as a mature adult which neither of them did. now, the way they were playing game is scandalous to say the least but the reality is you were smarter than both. you spirit told you to check and you listened. that something told me voice we have is there for a reason to protect us against the drama. follow your instincts, they helped you get out of a bad situation. if he loved you he wouldn't have cheated with your friend and been telling her and you the same thing. if she was your friend, she wouldn't have slept with him form jump, let alone been your shoulder to lean on. ultimate betrayal. LIVE

2008-09-21 00:00:45

wow!!,

i am very impressed at your mature handling of this situation. you did the right thing. you have ridded your garden of two snakes! you kno you have! dont look back, look forward... exciting things lie ahead for you. take care of yourself, keep it attractive (*fit and healthy), and you will have your pick of men and friends soon enuff! love life, not fools!!!!

2009-08-08 16:20:11