I Want To Leave My Husband

Okay. So my husband is a nice guy and a good father. But he doesn't handle his business like he should. I pay all the bills and manage all the money and he says cause he comes home and deposits his check in the bank and doesn't look for strippers I should be happy. He fucks me nice but sometimes I want more. I don't WANT to handle all the bills all the time, let's do it together. I'm also sick of him thinking he can grope me whenever he wants. He won't even try foreplay and will just come over and squeeze my tits. I'm like, are you serious? We've been married seven years but I'm thinking about divorcing him and being single and getting a new man. I would never cheat cause I'm not into that, but I would leave. But, I think if I actually tried to divorce him my husband would try to kill me or something. He seems like the type of nice guy to snap. We have a two year old son and I just worry that my husband will flip out. I've discussed leaving MANY times before and he just cries and says he has no family on me and the baby, which is true. I've offered to be his friend for the rest of our lives but he doesn't want to hear that.But it's getting harder and harder to stay cause I really don't want to be with him. The sex is pretty good but it's more than that. We don't talk AT ALL. I want to do more the fuck with a man and that's all we do. Fuck and be parents. And so I am up here looking for CONSTRUCTIVE advice. Thanks

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Constructive advice - your man is a wuss - he always was - you married him that way - I'm not saying this to be mean but he seems to want no responsibility - yes its good he contributes but I know what you mean about needing more - but before you go running off thinking its greener on the other side keep in mind most of these niccas out here ain't shit won't be shit and will not contribute shit towards your well being so why leave a good man with some flaws for a maybe? You tolerated it for 7 years he didn't just get like this... one thought - I done seen too many men kill their kids to spite the mother - is he THAT kinda crazy? If so you need to leave NOW and don't tell him shit - but if all this is is that you're bored - then spice it up and stop whining. Hope this helps...

2009-07-09 10:22:02

hey,

Spend some time together outside the house. If you manage the bills and money then start setting aside some money for a surprise trip/vacation. Don't be such a bitch about this either. Who are you going to find? Really. Do you got a degree, any skills, good looks? I ask since you said he says that he brings in the pay check. What man do you want? You really need to talk to him some how and move away from the whole divorce idea. And your husband needs to connect with you in a emotional level also. He could be losing a good wife & mother to his kids.

And baby, this is DLC i won't be surprise if somebody tells you that they'll take your man and call you a bitch.

2009-07-09 10:22:49

Grass isnt always greener,

Go to counceling or something! You took those vows and assume you agreed to the for better or for worse part, right? Well, stick it out and make your marriage work. Like he said, he is paying you, not sleeping around, sexing you. If the things he does are not up to your standards, then tell him to get right or your leaving - tears or not. I agree with both comments above - take a vacation, be appreciative for what you have.

2009-07-09 10:29:43

THen Leave his Ass,

So why your ass still home move the F**k out. That is so simple...

2009-07-09 11:03:10

Guest,

I totally understand your situation, I am in the same boat. But I don't necessary think a divorce is the answer. I have a good husband but I just don't love him. I married him because he was a good man and provider thinking I would grow to love him. But after 5 years of marriage, it hasn't happened. I choose to stay in the marriage because I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side. I think there will always going to be some type of problems in any relationship. You just got to learn to work through them. Marriage is not easy, we all must sacrifice and compromise in order to make it work. I wish you the best.

2009-07-09 12:35:50

Tiana,

I totally understand your situation. My boyfriend is the exact same way. We have been together for over 4 years and the only time we do anything is if I plan it. He thinks as long as he provides that's all he has to do and I am supposed to want to fuck cause he does. I hate it and it makes me resent him. I wish I had some advice to give you, but you have to do what makes you happy. Dont get out of the relationship to look for another, get out of it to look for your own happiness and see what brings you joy. We have two children together and his daughter and his nephew living with us...their mothers are not involved and I take care of all of them. So trust me when I say I know what you are feeling. Things will get better but not until you are happy all around and he just may not be the one to do it for you. I'll have to follow my own advice. Good luck to you.

2009-07-09 15:01:28

I know, I'm in the same situation,

I totaly understand! I have been in the same situation for 10 years!!! I have contemplated divorce also, but at the end of the day, this is the man I married - till death do us part, for better and for worse... My mistake is that I let him be lazy, I let him stand back and do nothing.. That's my fault. He's a mama's boy and his mother took care of EVERYTHING. He didn't even order a pizza until I made him last year! I have started making him take care of the gas/light bills... You need to just step back and make him take on some of the responsibility. If the lights get cut off, then he'll know you mean business. You need to follow thru with your "threats"... After 2 months of letting the bills go my husband finally got it and has been doing it ever since... I know that it's just the light/gas bill's but you have to start somewhere... I hope this make's sense to you... and I wish you luck with your strugles..but remember people will only do to you what you allow them to do! Good Luck

2009-07-09 15:04:09

^^,

great advice, do you have an email address or something so I can ask you for your advice about somethings?

2009-07-09 16:05:28

I know, I'm in the same situation,

I do, but I don't want a bunch of random emails... I wish they had private post's... Can you give me your's and I'll email you right now?

2009-07-09 17:26:05

I know, I'm in the same situation,

here, I just created a new email...
coreywest28@gmail.com
you can email me there....

2009-07-09 18:22:03

Nia,

I had to check to date on the post to make sure I did not write it. Your story sounds exactly like mines. My husband is a very nice man and a good father, but I am bored as hell with him because our relationship lacks communication and passion. I have two young kids and I cant imagine putting my needs before theirs, this is why I will not leave. I also see the shit that my single friends are going through just trying to find a decent date and it does not look pretty, so I am very aware that the grass is not greener. I ask myself many times is it fair to myself or my husband because although I love him, I'm not in love with him.

2009-09-06 23:16:58

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