THESE THINGS LEAD TO CHEATING

I have been married for 4 yrs and been with my husband for almost 12 years. I love him so much but am bothered by a few things. He fails to compliment me, he never wants to go out anymore, he barely spends quality time with me. This started about 3 or 4 years ago. I have asked him to continue to do the things that made me fall in love with him repeatedly through out these four years. I asked through text message, letters, in person, email, sticky notes, everything. He has not made any effort towards it. I asked him why he has not made effort and he said, he just isnt that person anymore. I asked if he is happy with our marriage and he says yes, that he is easy to please. I guess he is trying to say that I am not, because I want to hear a compliment and spend quality time together every now and then?? I dont get it. In all other aspects he is excellent. He is a great father, great provider for our family. However, he still has not learned to put me and his child first. I think its because as a child he did not experience what it felt like to be around happily married people. He has no idea what a marriage is supposed to be and has alot to learn. I know I am not perfect and I ask him is there anything I could change, his response is always no. I dont know what to do. This may seem trivial to some of you but to me, its a big deal. I need this form of affection in a relationship or the relationship does not work for me. I am at the point now where I am going to seek individual counseling. Maybe I will learn how to communicate my wants and needs more effectively, or maybe I will learn to see my marriage from a different perspective and begin to just accept that he is "no longer that person". Who knows, I love him and this is just my confession.