Looking for love in all the wrong places......

Girlfriend, hate to break it to you but there are none left. Get used to being alone or go back to putting up with the bullshit. Good black men went out of style with the jherri curl.

2008-09-02 22:39:15

Thats bull shit i am a good black straight male. There seems to be no good black sisters around anywhere. Its hard to find someone that is a possibility of have a family and kids and a great life. WHERE ARE YALL AT

2008-09-02 22:51:38

to the person above me. are u serious? blk men today is a joke, me personally did ever thing a woman was suppose to and still got fucked in the end. Men are so shallow its a crying shame. Most men I've experience end up to ways afraid and worry bout what others say bout commitment or use woman to they avail. So guess what this ain't even a topic to me. I was born in New Orleans, but now in Little Rock and i see now it's not where you locate it's some men in general that dont care

2008-09-02 23:31:07

You can't say all black men when you're only looking in places where the chance of finding one is slim. You REALLY think you're finding a man you will marry at a club? Or on the strip? Also, are you able to provide the same stuff you're requiring from men? Good job? Car? No kids? Apartment/house? If not, stop bullshitting and take a time out on dating and get yourself together!

2008-09-03 06:39:41

First off I am from New Orleans but now live in Charlotte and the only thing that has changed is the accents.

Secondly I can bring everything a man is supposed to bring to the table. Although I may have 2 kids, I am not looking for a "baby daddy".
I work 3 jobs, I am in school, I just got a house over the summer and I am a Christian. I rarely go out to clubs cuz ain't no men there. But as I stated where are they.

To the second commenter, where are you. And why are you not attached?

Most men nowadays don't deal with women with kids.

Where Are They?

2008-09-03 13:58:17

To the author, and Are you Serious lady:
I am in the chi in med school. and for the record if your in love then it doesn't matter if a woman has kids or not. A real man will take care of his responsibly and others. So i am hoping that you beautiful black woman know that there are still a few of us out there. You woman are hard to find. Some of you want too much that some of us guys have. When you treat me like a King you will be treated like my queen.

Good luck and keep hope alive

From,
1 out of 100 Excellent Black Brothers that are straight!! (No disrespect to any of you same sex people)

2008-09-03 22:55:33

I don't think that u are gonna find what u are looking for on this website. Please try a different approach because the niggas on this site seem to have major issues and most of them are gay or DL.

2008-09-12 15:28:40

I'm an attractive, spiritual, intellectual sister with a bachelor's and a graduate degree from top tier schools. I've traveled, lived, and worked in seven different countries. I've also live in 2 cities that have the largest numbers of professional black men in America. I tell you all this so you are well aware of the fact that I've seen quite a bit of what's out there. Nothing! Like someone accurately stated above, many men have low self esteem and are extremely insecure. They're like little boys in the bodies of grown men. I know I will find my King one day, but I've given up on looking for him around every corner.I'm waiting on the Lord to send him to me because I'm tired of all the drama

2008-09-18 10:30:30

I'm a mixed blk female(young, independent, no kids, educated) and I stopped dating black men because the good ones are too hard to find(not saying ya'll aren't out there I was was just tired of meeting Ray Ray with 5 BMs instead). I come from a 2 parent home, my parents are still married and happy, and I couldn't find even just ONE guy to meet that basic standard. It may be because of my location(I'm in Cali in the Bay) but there just didn't seem to be any quality dudes out there. And no I don't go to clubs.

My current man is Latino(Mexican) and culturally it's like night and day, there is still a expectation of responsiblity to family(you don't make babies with women you won't marry) that is sorely missing in the black community.

Like I said, I believe that there are good black men out there but there are more black men out there giving the good ones a bad name then anything else.

2009-05-30 11:00:23

I am a married black woman to a man that most black women would have walked away from. When I met him, he was ready and available, no baby mommas, no kids, and educated. I knew something was unusual about that. After being married for 5 years, I feel like I am the man in the relationship, he can't cook, clean, fix things, make any type of household decisions, lacks confidence, lacks romance, never compliments me, cant hold a decent conversation. I am so fucking miserable that I feel like jumping off a bridge. We have two small kids and that is the only reason why I am still here. I feel like I am married to a stranger, and we have this silent agreement/roommate where he would pay half of the bills, other than that our marriage is pretty much EMPTY. My point is.....the good black man has become extinct.

2009-11-22 07:19:28