Was I wrong?

So I dated this dude for about 2 years. During that time he wasn't loving, affectionate or understanding but he was still a good man. I ended up dumping him cause I needed the affection he wasn't or didn't want to give. Fast forward we're now friends and hang out together a lot. He keeps trying to rekindle what we had saying he knows he was wrong and that he was in a bad place (issues with baby mama that have since been resolved). He tells me he loves me and shows it in his actions. The problem is I don't know if I love him that way anymore. I don't want to lose his friendship but I seriously can't seem to bring myself to feel what I felt. He's mad at me now saying I kept him like a dick in a glass and refuses to talk to me. I respect his choice to back off. What I'm grapalling with is am I stupid should I just go ahead and be with him again? Am I using him if I stay with him knowing I'm not in love anymore? Can the feelings we had ever come back? I'm so confused.

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Miss Lady,

It would be selfsh to get back with him knowing you dont love him anymore. If hes mad let him be mad. Dudes tend to get that way when they dont get their way with a chick. If the feelings do come back then give it a shot but until then his ass is just going to have to be mad.

2010-07-26 09:30:14

Guest,

You are doing the right thing. It wouldn't be fair to him to get back with him if you don't love him. It would only cause problems in your future relationship and you wouldn't be happy.

Ok, so he is mad right now. Let him deal with that on his own. He needs to respect and understand that you don't have those type of feelings for him. We don't have control over the people we fall in love with.

You don't want to end up in my situation. I married a friend because he was a good man. I didn't love him but I married him anyway with the hopes that I would love him the way he loves me as time went on. We have been married 10 years and I still don't love him. I just go through the motions to keep him happy. But on the inside I feel miserable because I don't want to be with him. But I stay in this relationship because he is a good man and I try and do what is right.

2010-07-26 15:30:30

^^^^^,

Shut your cry baby ass up bitch you are no different then a man on the dl you disgust me

2010-07-26 15:41:08

The Real Deal,

Just accept the fact that both of u didn't know what the hell u wanted besides sex in the supposed relationship.
How you gone "date" someone for 2 full years and tolerate no love, affection or understanding. Seriously. Was the DICK that good? You got what you asked for. You were a doormat. And that's why you don't love him.
He became 'friends' with his "fuck buddy'. That is not unusual. You know this is what you were and don't want to run the risk of it happening again.
Like others have said, he just mad cuz he can't have you the way he wants.. There's more pussy out there. He's got to learn to do right by people. And you got to learn to respect yourself. Move on.

2010-07-27 05:48:29

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