Being a gay black man (which doesn't mean I tell my business), I don't get the DL. I thought marriage meant something? Is DL really just Bi or married Bi? And I might have met one or two in my life.

My gay friends told me, never mentioned names I didn't want to know, about married Bi men they had. White guys don't call it DL. they call it Bi. I know about that too. And guess what, they didn't go after them, the DL and Bi men came after my gay friends. That hasn't happened to me; whew.

Now if they are lying then the gay guy might not know the other guy is Bi. That's why I don't go to str8 clubs. because the DL might be there. If I found out he was on the DL, we would have to end it. He'd have to tell his wife. But say he is not married and dating girls and guys. I don't know? I could date him as long as he ain't married and not hurting that girl.